A few weeks ago I mentioned that I was going to try out online dating. Well, here we are a few weeks later and I have to say that as long as you view it as entertainment it’s a fun waste of time.
I can’t believe how much people lie. I feel like House is actually right – “Everybody lies”
They lie about the most stupid things. Interestingly men and women seem to describe themselves very differently. Pictures of men who self-describe as ‘athletic’ and ‘average’ are self-described as ‘a few extra pounds’ by women with the same build.
An interesting research study could certainly be designed to look at why that might be.
Secondly men lie about their height. As a 6′ woman I’m well aware that many men are intimidated somehow by tall women so I pay attention to their height. What I don’t understand is how somebody thinks that they can describe themselves as 6’2″ when they’re barely 5’10”. Do they only date women who are 5′, who may not be able to tell the difference? Crazily enough they’ll often post pictures of themselves with backgrounds that make it quite clear that they’re nowhere near the height they mention. Of course, even if they manage to post a picture that doesn’t give it away meeting for the ubiquitous coffee soon gives the game away.
If you’re going to lie about your height what else are you lying about?
Marital status is an obvious one and most men give themselves away pretty quickly. I don’t understand why they don’t just join the sites that are designed specifically for people who want to cheat. Are they just lying to themselves?
Then there are the ones that hate judgment as they pass judgment on complete strangers, or who are grammar Nazi’s and can’t spell grammar correctly to begin with!
Also, since when did it become acceptable for the opening line in a conversation to be about whether or not you give blow jobs? Again, there are sites that are totally about sexual hook-ups, can’t you use those instead?
So for those of us that just want to find friends, and date a little, please let’s talk about the weather, the day, our work, our interests, places we’ve traveled to or would like to travel too.
I guess at the end of the day, it’s a cheap form of entertainment. I just came across a site that say’s that it’s different and really supports friends and dating rather than cheating and sex hook-ups. I’ll try it and report back in a few weeks.
In the meantime, the thing perhaps to keep in mind is that I’ll only use the free sites (having paid for the expensive ones in the past and found them no better) and the old adage seems to be true:
You get what you pay for!