Some of you are probably wondering why I’m writing about Mothering Sunday in March. Well, simply I was born and raised in England where Mothering Sunday is celebrated on the fourth Sunday of Lent. Although it’s often called Mothers’ Day it has no connection with the American/Canadian festival of that name. Traditionally, it was a day when children, mainly daughters, who had gone to work as domestic servants were given a day off to visit their mother and family.
Being English, when I adopted my daughter at nearly 8 years of age we opted to celebrate the English Mothering Sunday for me and keep the Canadian Mother’s Day in May for her birth mom. However, it has been a few years since my daughter has celebrated either date with me.
Likewise, I am now estranged from my own mother and this will be the first Mothering Sunday since that happened.
So today in a moment of reflection I wanted to recognise all those other women out there who are not with their children today, whatever the reason.
Sometimes you know why, and the situation is irrevocable, like it is between me and my mother. For those of you for whom that applies I hope that today brings you peace.
For others, the situation is confusing and doesn’t make any sense. For those of you for whom that applies I hope that you remember that you did the absolute best that you could, that nobody is perfect and that not being with your child on this day doesn’t take away all the good mothering that you did do when you were able to.
Take a moment in either, or both situation(s) and simply choose today to remember the good moments.
May this Mothering Sunday be the best it can be for you!