When thinking about a new bucket list I quickly found myself confined by expectations of ‘normal’ and limiting the ideas that I had.
I’ve never been a bridesmaid. Something that was of tremendous hurt to me when both my parents remarried when I was a child and neither gave me that privilege. In my mother’s case, her second wedding was in a registry office and there weren’t any bridesmaids, just adult witnesses.
My father, though, had a full wedding again with bridesmaids and despite my being about 5-6 years old at the time, I wasn’t invited to the ceremony let alone to be a bridesmaid. It hurt.
However, at 45 years old when thinking about this I found myself thinking that I am now far too old to be a bridesmaid. That while, people of my generation may be marrying again they tend not to have that kind of wedding and that the majority of my friends are now on their second, or third marriages, and to all appearances, these seem to be the one that ‘sticks’.
So I was about to cross this off my new list when I saw this article on a couple who had their grandmothers as their ‘flower girls’.
It reminded me that all things are possible.
So being a bridesmaid is back on my list…
On to other ideas…
A news item on the top 10 happiest countries in the world came across my news feed. There are several different lists but here are two of them:
- New Zealand.
- Costa Rica.
As you can see there are a lot of countries in common between these two lists. Of these, I am very privileged to have visited most of them leaving New Zealand still on my bucket list.
The fourth item on my list is to live on the ocean. Having grown up in England, where the ocean is very rarely more than 4 hours away, and then spending my first years in Canada in Vancouver and Steveston I really miss the ocean.
I’ve been landlocked now for 10 years and while the Great Lakes are pretty impressive it is not the same as being on an actual beach. So the fourth item on my new bucket list is to live on the ocean.
While this is my dream…
achieving it may mean that this will be my reality. Though I’d prefer a camper that I could stand up in without having to raise the roof!
Regardless of how I achieve it, #4 on my list is to live on the beach, or at least close enough to it that I can get to it on a weekend within an hour’s drive or less.
So here are the first four items of my new bucket list:
- Coffee with a friend in our local Starbucks
- To be a bridesmaid
- To visit New Zealand
- To live on the ocean
All four seem just as unobtainable right this moment.
However, that’s the point of dreams, to have something to reach for!